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Domestic Violence Prevention




This wiki is made in dedication to Corinne DeMachio. (1968-1998),and also to anyone who lost their life or been hurt because of domestic abuse.



What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, happens when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and/or control the other person. An abuser doesn’t “play nice.” He or she uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear their partner down and gain complete power over them. He or she may threaten them, hurt them, or hurt those around them. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.

Victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence can be men or women, although women are more commonly victimized. (Note: I will use the pronoun “he” for convenience only) This abuse happens among heterosexual couples and in same-sex partnerships. Except for the gender difference, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate. It happens within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and financial levels. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended.

Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his wife or partner.

This wiki has been designed to enlighten and teach. As one who witnessed these things, first hand, I know how difficult it is to understand a few key points.

Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice!

Reasons we know an abuser's behaviors are not about anger and rage:

* He does not batter other individuals - the boss who does not give him time off or the gas station attendant that spills gas down the side of his car. He waits until there are no witnesses and abuses the person he says he loves.
* If you ask an abused woman, "can he stop when the phone rings or the police come to the door?" She will say "yes". Most often when the police show up, he is looking calm, cool and collected and she is the one who may look hysterical. If he were truly "out of control" he would not be able to stop himself when it is to his advantage to do so.
* The abuser very often escalates from pushing and shoving to hitting in places where the bruises and marks will not show (Stomach, kidneys, back). If he were "out of control" or "in a rage" he would not be able to direct or limit where his kicks or punches land (face, legs, arms).

Source: http://www.mvwcs.com/redflag.html



I can go into deeper detail, but that will just be too much to read. I'll just leave it at:

If you feel you are in physical danger immediately call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224.


Remember! Domestic abuse affects everyone. Not just the victim. If there are children, they will be affected greatly for it. Also, if you're a parent and your child comes to you with a problem about mommy or daddy hurting them or threatening them, listen to your child, and take the appropriate action!




If you wish to be one that someone can talk to, simply ask in the comments. I'll put your name up immediately. If you wish to add your own personal experience, I'll get to work making a wiki page just for that.


Here are some people on Elfpack willing to help you, give advice or just be there when you need someone to listen.

[Neurotic Obsession]
[Tis gone but never gone]
[NyxianVanity]
[0-Aki]

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2009-07-22 [0-Aki]: :/

2009-07-22 [fu**(fuse)]: i dunno what else to do than to laugh.

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: ....

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: ?

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Nothing. *stares blankly off into space where alien candies are dancing the hula* how's you?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. brb.. gonna throw some laundry in the washer

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Mmkai.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Kk.. back. I'm good^^ How are you?

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: I'm good. Confused as ever but good.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Why are you confused?

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Bleh. Nothing important or worthwhile. I just keep getting the feeling my ex is avoiding me.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Ah *Nods* So yeah, my step-dad is dying and it's making me giggle XD

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Wow how so?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: His body is shutting down, he has diabetes and my step-mom and myself told him to lay off the drugs and sugar, but he didn't listen.. and now.. XD

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: O.o

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Nods* Good times.

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: What did the number 0 say to the number 8?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. I dunno

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Nice belt!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD HA!

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: ^-^

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: am i allowed to come back?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Nods* Yeah, this wiki isn't about friendship, it's about helping those who need it.

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: well as long as no one is mad at me....i sowwies

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: I sowwies tew *Huggles*

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: *huggles*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Dead possums are gross!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. Thanks for that update :D

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: .< i just had to get one out of my back yard.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. eww

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Yup. The flies were the worst part. *gags*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: O.o Belch

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: And now i'm hiccuping. What the hell?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Sticks your finger in an electric socket*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: *gets shocked and dies* x.x

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: :D *Pokes with wooden broom handle*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: *wakes up as a zombie and noms your head trying to get your brain*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Yous gonna starve^^

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ *Noms the wall*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: O.o how?

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: hes good like that he noms everything

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Face on floor*... *Noms it*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Lolz.

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: whats next...the ceiling??

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Perhaps.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Noms his hair* I LIKE GIBLET STEW!

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: O.o

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: SCREE!!! *Runs around*

2009-07-23 [NyxianVanity]: Bat.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: WSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: O_O

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: O.o.. I was hyper

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: GO Pokéball! *Throws Pokéball at you*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: :O I choose you!

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: *Watches it fall to the floor*
Aww, I wanted a Raphie.

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Blinks at Pokéball*

*Mini Raphie comes out*

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: YAY!!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: ..That's an ugly Pokémon...
*Kicks it*

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: :O
*Eyes fill up with tears* It was a pretty Pokémon...

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: u kicked raphie!!!!! *hugs aiden* i think raphie is ok

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: T__T

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: You know, at the risk of sounding like a narcissistic jackass, my songs aren't half bad Oo

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: I told u that i love them....boy you never listen to me do you??? XD

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: >.> Still not going for that record deal though. Wayy to shy for that

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: fine...give me permission to make cds and i will sell them

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. do I get any profit? XD

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: u get ur voice heard.....but i cant send them to anyone big because u wont do a record

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD I'll just make videos and become famous on Youtube :P

2009-07-23 [gypsy_soul]: okay

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *comes in and plops on the couch* v___v...

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Watches*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *is asleep* ....zzz....

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Puts blanket over you*

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: Aww lookit her sleeps!! 8] *Kisses her forehead and puts snail under her arm*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *cuddles snail and smiles in sleep* zzz...

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Begins snapping fingers, aching for a smoke or drink*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *a loud crackel of thunder wakens me and i scream* O___O!!!!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: O.O *Hides under sofa* <---deathly afraid of lightening

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: O_O;

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: (no lightning, just thunder) *looks under sofa*..Hallo? ^--^

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: With loud noise comes flashy lights.. with flashy lights comes evil ghosts and exorcists.. >.<

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: well i havent seen any lightning.. the storms almost over.. *looks out window*

2009-07-23 [0-Aki]: Uh-oh Spaghetti-O's!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Is shaking* Don't let it get me!!! *Cries and looks for a Bible*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *hands you a Bible* O.O... *sits next to the sofa*..are you coming out anytime soon?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Opens Bible and begins reading Psalms* I dun wanna get possesseded again >.<

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *looks at him oddly* Aga--wha???

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Nofin.. *Comes out from under the sofa*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: YAY! He came out! *huggles* ^-^

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *huggles back*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *just realizes how long his hairs are* O.O! Its longer than mines! *plays wif it* so pretteh ^^

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo I cut it a few weeks ago.. It was at my bum >.<

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: O.O!!!! That musta been a pain to deal with.. it still must be a pain to deal with! :O

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: It's not as bad now, I had to cut it then because I kept sitting on it and pulling my hair, used to get a lot of headaches *Plays with your hair* I want your hair

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: Noo.. you dont -.-; Its annoying!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: But I wanna be pretty like you

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: You is pretteh like me! ^^

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: Infact, prettier!! O.o!

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Snorts* Yeah right. You is teh prettiest

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: HA! yeah Okies.. >____>

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: It's true!

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: .......Hm. I dont see how you can manage all that hair! :o

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: It's easy.. I brush it out like.. once a week.. cry from the pain and then give up half way through... shake it out and then go on my way^^

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: lols ^^ Have you ever tried wearing it all in one big braid? O.O? I believe that'll be most pretties, ..but i like the halfway pulled back way toos. ^-^

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: When it goes from my bum to my knees (Knees is where I cut it) I usually do the one braid.

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: Wow, O.o! *awed*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: I only ever cut my hair short short once.. and never again -.-

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: how short is 'short short'??

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: <img:http://www.elfpack.com/img/photo/54238_1247662359.jpg>

That's the shortest I ever had my hair

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: AWH! I love it!!!! 8D

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: >.< Bleh.. so much maintenance

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: But.. Its cute ^^ *grins*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Meh, I prefer my long hair *Huggles hair* I looks so much more sexy with long locks XD *Tries to say that with a straight face*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: *nods* true true....

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo.. well what?

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: xD

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: awh, i was hoping i was quick enough to change it ><! *fails*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD Fail!

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: -___-;

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: :3 Soo whats up?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Nothing^^ Just thinking.. you?

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: Also Thinking.. and I now have the lyrics of "The Greatest Veiw" In my head :P yeah i tried singing it the way i thought it would go and now i have the chorus in my head..

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: lol.. too bad you don't have any sound. :/

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: I know! ><

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Ah well^^ Maybe one day you'll get a set of headphones to plug into the back of the tower :P

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: Yeah perha..OMG! *runs to get headphones*

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *blink*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: are you singing?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Now? No. But that is my singing voice

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: teh songs i mean..

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: *nods*

2009-07-23 [fu**(fuse)]: oh. do you have to download it to hear it?

2009-07-23 [Neurotic Obsession]: Yeah -.-.. it was the only free one I could find in a rush. But soon I'll videos on youtube so people can watch me play them

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: Yay! Cool. x3

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: ^--^ *tackels you* Meow! >8D

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Kitteh^^ *Pets*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: X3

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Cuddles kitteh*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: *cuddles* Purr ^^

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ *Gives some treats*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: *sniffs them then refuses* xP

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Blink*

*Gets some peanut butter and pries your mouth open*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: *bites* ><!

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Owies! *Bites your ear* (I actually do that when my cat bites me >.> He hates me now)

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: xD

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: I'm serious! I walk in the room, he growls and walks out of the room.

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: *growls and walks outta the room*

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Blink and shrugs and then does what he normally does to his cat*


...*Kick*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: :O! *bites your leg*

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Gahh! >.< *Runs away from evil kitty*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: meow.. *jumps on, and curls up on couch* ^-^

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Puts plastic bag over kitteh (yes, I do torture my real cats like this..) and swings kitteh around in bag*

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]:
(horrible!!! >:O) *somehow gets out and attacks you angryly* RAWR! >.<

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Gahh! Oo (I don't tie up the bag or anything, I leave it open so I can see their "I'm going to kill you" glare"^^)

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: (okay thats better.. i guess, still mean!)

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: (But they always run to me when they want treats, Bandit has a habit of biting my ass to wake me up at 4 or 5 in the morning to give him some treats -.-)

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: lmao!!!! xD awwh i like Bandit..

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: He's an asshole to me -.- But I'm the same to him^^ But no one is allowed to touch me or else he'll go after them, and he runs to me when another cat gives him trouble, knowing daddy will scare them away.

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: awwwhh ^^ quite a interesting relationship you two haves..

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Love/hate relationships are the best^^

2009-07-24 [fu**(fuse)]: oh yes xD

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: Purple.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Orange

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: How ish your ralfieness?

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: I ish gewd *Is coloring* how ish da destiny?

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: Me ish kewl.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ Awesomes

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: Whatcha coloring?

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: A horsey *Holds up picture of cat*

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: XD nice.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: *pokes*

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: *pokes back*

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: *glomps*

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Oo

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: XD i want to laugh right now.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: You do?

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: Sorry lolz...it's such a small thing.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: What is?

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: I had to get a state id...and of all things that could've happened, my middle name gets misspelled! LOLZ!

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: lol! XD

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: Gave me a reason to think about my mom without pain. It felt good.

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-24 [NyxianVanity]: So anyway what's up?

2009-07-24 [Neurotic Obsession]: Just laughing at a video that I'm watching

2009-07-25 [NyxianVanity]: I can't wait until tomorrow!

2009-07-25 [Neurotic Obsession]: Why not?

2009-07-25 [NyxianVanity]: Beach. ^-^

2009-07-25 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ Yay for you^^

2009-07-25 [NyxianVanity]: Yap!

2011-09-10 [HeAVenShallBuRN]: *Shifts a bit* I wanna be on it

2011-09-15 [NyxianVanity]: sorry hun i don't know the password

2011-09-16 [HeAVenShallBuRN]: I is a custodian but i know the pages owners permission to edit ^^

2011-09-17 [NyxianVanity]: Ralfie's been gone for ages... .-.

2011-09-17 [HeAVenShallBuRN]: It does'nt matter, rules are rules

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