I just want to get this clear...

Selfish:
1. Concerned chiefly or only with yourself

Pathetic:
1. Deserving or inciting pity
2. Inspiring mixed contempt and pity
3. Inspiring scornful pity

Hate:
1. The emotion of hate; a feeling of dislike so strong that it demands action
2. Dislike intensely; feel antipathy or aversion towards